| Location | Lincoln |
| Age | 34 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 08/09/1971 |
| Date of Death | 03/07/2006 |
| Visitors | 3,074 since 15/11/2006 |
| Creator |
Darren Andrew Lane
Died 3rd July 2006
Aged 34years
It was 1997, I was divorced and disillusioned with two little boys when I met Darren on a blind
Date. He was funny and loud and not the type I went for at all. In fact he looked like a lout! But
something clicked and five months later we were married and beginning a new life together. Darren
started his own business as a heating engineer and a year after we married, our son Alex was born.
We really did have a perfect life, Darren was a hard worker, and an amazing Dad. He loved our boys
the same and never told a soul that Tom and Jack were his stepsons. ‘these are my lads’ he’d
proudly tell folk. He had a real passion for life, and what he couldn’t do in a day wasn’t worth
doing! He was a novice inventor and came up with so many wacky plans and ideas, I would just sigh
and go along with whatever he wanted to try out next. One thing I can say is, that I never ever said
‘no’ to him-I just couldn’t refuse him, no-one could. He had a way of making things sound so
exciting, his enthusiasm was contagious.
His biggest passion was motorbikes, he must have had a new bike every year, and rode it like a
madman. Our next child George was born in Feb 2004, and as Darren wiped the tears of joy from his
eyes, he swore never to ride his bike on the road again! Instead he would race on a track! I
groaned, but knew it was much safer..(even so, I regularly pictured him lying in hospital after some
accident) I must have planned his funeral a hundred times, but somehow we got through the summer
without any major ‘offs’. Winter came and I relaxed, then spring. I dont recall him getting on
his bike, he was far too busy! His workload was heavy and we were selling our house-there was always
so much to do, and little time for recreation.
In late May, we had a visit from Darrens Uncle Jeff and his wife and four children from the USA, and
had a wonderful family meal. It was the last time we would spend time as a family, with no worries
or fears for the future. Two days later, on 2nd June 2005, Darren complained of a headache. It
lasted three days, and eventually I drove him to the hospital, he was begging me to help him, he
thought he was dying. He was kept in and they could find nothing wrong, but one Dr (who I will
forever be grateful to) authorised a CT scan, and the news was devastating. He had a massive tumour
in his brain, and those words will stay with me forever. Darren just looked at the Doc and said
‘am I going to die?’ he was rushed to Queens Medical Centre, Nottingham, for emergency surgery
and we were later told that his tumour was cancerous and incurable. He was given between 5 and
20years with treatment. Then began the endless hospital visits for radiotherapy and check ups.
Six months later (Christmas 2005) his scan showed no reduction in tumour size, so he began
chemotherapy. You wouldn’t have known that there was anything wrong with him! Up till now, he
still worked, was fully mobile, and he didn’t want people to treat him differently. He was
extremely brave. We made plans for our ‘limited’ future, but didn’t discuss death-he just
didn’t want to.
He had his first round of chemo in January, but I was beginning to notice a change in his behaviour.
He grew tired and de-motivated. I couldn’t get him out of bed, or to eat. He couldn’t remember
the kids names, and began to hallucinate. His next scan in April 2006 showed massive regrowth, and
the day after we got the results he was hospitalised.He hated being in hospital, and throughout his
entire illness spent just eight days there.
They gave him two weeks to live. I don’t know what he understood by then, everything he uttered
was so random, but I knew he wanted to go home, so that’s what we did. He lived for eight weeks
and amazed the doctors and nurses and carers that helped me look after him.He took to his bed on one
occasion during that time, when he had a small cerebral bleed, but after a few days he was up and
about again. He made us laugh and cry, he even managed to tell me he loved me. We went to the
seaside and ate fish and chips. He never once complained.
He made it past Fathers day but then became very quiet. A few days later, he had his first seizure
and never regained consciousness. On 3rd July 2006, we had lit some candles and his favourite CD was
playing. The children spent time with him and said goodbye, it was heartbreaking-but beautiful. His
mum Angie and sister Donna, were with me, and together we held him as he took his last breath. I
know its what he would have wanted. He was 34 years old and left four sons Tom 15, Jack 13, Alex 8,
and George 2.
Many times I have thought how cruel it is that he went like this, and not doing something he loved
like racing his bike. But I know that we were given a very precious year together. I can only
imagine the pain of having someone unexpectedly ripped from you in an accident, or sudden death. Its
early days for me, the memory of his illness will haunt me for sometime, but I hope that soon, I
will be able to put that away and remember the happier times we shared as a family.
Love you forever my Darry xx
Kerrie x
~♥~X~♥~X~THINKING OF YOU ANGEL~X~♥~X~♥~X
Beautiful precious memories
We have and share of you
You touched the lives of many
And loved by everyone you knew.
♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥
All the happy times you gave us
We thank you for them all
A loving and kind person
You gave and wanted nothing at all.
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You're in Gods care now in heaven
How lucky they are to have you
A special angel in His keeping
That special angel is you.
♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥♥ ♰ ♥
Will you save a place for us
At your side in heaven above
And until we meet again
We will all send our love.
Wedding Anniversary
Happy Anniversary my darling, thinking of you as always and missing you terribly..would have been 12 years married today. We are going to a fireworks party tonight so I will be looking up and thinking of you, lots of Love Kerrie xxxx
*~*~*~*GOOD MORNING ANGEL.*~*~*~*
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♥ ☆ ♥ ☆ ♥ LOVE ALWAYS PAT. X ♥ ☆ ♥
⋱♰⋰ I Am With You Always ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ As you hold me close in memory ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Even though we are apart ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ My spirit will live on ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ There within your heart ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ I am with you always ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ When you lean on trusted friends ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ And their caring hugs enfold you ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Within their loving arms ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ I'll be there to hold you ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ I am with you always ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ And beyond the far horizon ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ When we'll finally be together ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Where love will be eternal ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ And life will last forever ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ I am with you always
❤
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17TH SEPTEMBER 2009
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TODAY AND ALWAYS. X
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One Day
♥~♥~♥~♥~♥
Everytime i think of you
My heart just skips a beat
For i know that one day
In Heaven we will meet
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For each and every new day
I hurt a little more
But i know for certain
We'll meet outside Heavens door
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So until we meet again
Ill send you all my love
For there'll be a new beginning for us
In Heaven up above
♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~♥
LOVE ALWAYS PAT XXXX
copyright� Vicky Deaville 2009
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I stood by your bed last night;
I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying you found it hard to sleep.
I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
'It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here.'
I was close to you at breakfast,
I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached to me.
I was with you at the shops today; your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today; you tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I flew with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently landed on you; I smiled and said, 'it's me.'
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know, that I was there.
It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, 'I never went away.'
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning and say 'good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning.'
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll fly across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you,
there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...
then come home to be with me.
AWAY ON HOLIDAY 2ND TO THE 9TH LOVE TO ALL YOU ANGELS THINKING OF YOU ALL XXXXX
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FOR WEDNESDAY 2ND SEPTEMBER
Our thoughts are ever with you
Though you have passed away.
And those who loved you dearly
Are thinking of you today.
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FOR THURSDAY
Everyday in some small way
Memories of you come our way.
Though absent, you are always near
Still missed, loved and always dear.
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FOR FRIDAY
No farewell words were spoken,
No time to say goodbye,
You were gone before we knew it,
And only God can tell us why.
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FOR SATURDAY
We can't have old days back
When we were all together.
But secret tears and loving thoughts
Will be with us forever.
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FOR SUNDAY
Love Lives On
Those we love
Are never really lost to us –
We feel them
In so many special ways-
Through friends
They always cared about
And dreams they left behind,
In beauty that they added to our days...
In words of wisdom we still carry with us
And memories that never will be gone...
Those we love are never really lost to us -
For everywhere their special love lives on.
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FOR MONDAY
If Roses Grow in Heaven
If roses grow in Heaven Lord
Please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my loved ones arms
and tell them they're from me.
Tell them I love and miss them,
And when they turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon their cheeks
And hold them for a while.
Because remembering them is easy,
I do it everyday,
But there is an ache within my heart
That will never go away.
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FOR TUESDAY
Still With Us
Do not stand by my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am a diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awake in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star shine at night.
Do not stand by my grave and cry.
I am not there...I DID NOT DIE.
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Jack passed his exams!
Just wanted you to know Jack passed his GCSEs with flying colours! Tom started his new job on monday too and moved into new house in Surrey, hes really happy xx
I wondered if it was you who visited my friend recently? I think it was thanks for checking them out, I know you always look out for us!
Love you loads my Darry xxx
Thought this was lovely xx
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
~Author~
Ruth Ann Mahaffey
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