| Location | Lincoln |
| Age | 34 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 08/09/1971 |
| Date of Death | 03/07/2006 |
| Visitors | 3,079 since 15/11/2006 |
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Darren Andrew Lane
Died 3rd July 2006
Aged 34years
It was 1997, I was divorced and disillusioned with two little boys when I met Darren on a blind
Date. He was funny and loud and not the type I went for at all. In fact he looked like a lout! But
something clicked and five months later we were married and beginning a new life together. Darren
started his own business as a heating engineer and a year after we married, our son Alex was born.
We really did have a perfect life, Darren was a hard worker, and an amazing Dad. He loved our boys
the same and never told a soul that Tom and Jack were his stepsons. ‘these are my lads’ he’d
proudly tell folk. He had a real passion for life, and what he couldn’t do in a day wasn’t worth
doing! He was a novice inventor and came up with so many wacky plans and ideas, I would just sigh
and go along with whatever he wanted to try out next. One thing I can say is, that I never ever said
‘no’ to him-I just couldn’t refuse him, no-one could. He had a way of making things sound so
exciting, his enthusiasm was contagious.
His biggest passion was motorbikes, he must have had a new bike every year, and rode it like a
madman. Our next child George was born in Feb 2004, and as Darren wiped the tears of joy from his
eyes, he swore never to ride his bike on the road again! Instead he would race on a track! I
groaned, but knew it was much safer..(even so, I regularly pictured him lying in hospital after some
accident) I must have planned his funeral a hundred times, but somehow we got through the summer
without any major ‘offs’. Winter came and I relaxed, then spring. I dont recall him getting on
his bike, he was far too busy! His workload was heavy and we were selling our house-there was always
so much to do, and little time for recreation.
In late May, we had a visit from Darrens Uncle Jeff and his wife and four children from the USA, and
had a wonderful family meal. It was the last time we would spend time as a family, with no worries
or fears for the future. Two days later, on 2nd June 2005, Darren complained of a headache. It
lasted three days, and eventually I drove him to the hospital, he was begging me to help him, he
thought he was dying. He was kept in and they could find nothing wrong, but one Dr (who I will
forever be grateful to) authorised a CT scan, and the news was devastating. He had a massive tumour
in his brain, and those words will stay with me forever. Darren just looked at the Doc and said
‘am I going to die?’ he was rushed to Queens Medical Centre, Nottingham, for emergency surgery
and we were later told that his tumour was cancerous and incurable. He was given between 5 and
20years with treatment. Then began the endless hospital visits for radiotherapy and check ups.
Six months later (Christmas 2005) his scan showed no reduction in tumour size, so he began
chemotherapy. You wouldn’t have known that there was anything wrong with him! Up till now, he
still worked, was fully mobile, and he didn’t want people to treat him differently. He was
extremely brave. We made plans for our ‘limited’ future, but didn’t discuss death-he just
didn’t want to.
He had his first round of chemo in January, but I was beginning to notice a change in his behaviour.
He grew tired and de-motivated. I couldn’t get him out of bed, or to eat. He couldn’t remember
the kids names, and began to hallucinate. His next scan in April 2006 showed massive regrowth, and
the day after we got the results he was hospitalised.He hated being in hospital, and throughout his
entire illness spent just eight days there.
They gave him two weeks to live. I don’t know what he understood by then, everything he uttered
was so random, but I knew he wanted to go home, so that’s what we did. He lived for eight weeks
and amazed the doctors and nurses and carers that helped me look after him.He took to his bed on one
occasion during that time, when he had a small cerebral bleed, but after a few days he was up and
about again. He made us laugh and cry, he even managed to tell me he loved me. We went to the
seaside and ate fish and chips. He never once complained.
He made it past Fathers day but then became very quiet. A few days later, he had his first seizure
and never regained consciousness. On 3rd July 2006, we had lit some candles and his favourite CD was
playing. The children spent time with him and said goodbye, it was heartbreaking-but beautiful. His
mum Angie and sister Donna, were with me, and together we held him as he took his last breath. I
know its what he would have wanted. He was 34 years old and left four sons Tom 15, Jack 13, Alex 8,
and George 2.
Many times I have thought how cruel it is that he went like this, and not doing something he loved
like racing his bike. But I know that we were given a very precious year together. I can only
imagine the pain of having someone unexpectedly ripped from you in an accident, or sudden death. Its
early days for me, the memory of his illness will haunt me for sometime, but I hope that soon, I
will be able to put that away and remember the happier times we shared as a family.
Love you forever my Darry xx
Kerrie x
I am away for a few days break from sunday 23rd until tuesday 25th...so i'll light you candles now and send you all my love...see you tuesday afternoon angel xxxxxxxxxx
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FORSUNDAYƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
*★ * Take Care our beautiful angel *★ * In Heaven Up Above *★ * And Until we See You *★ * We Send Up All our Love *★ *
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FOR MONDAY Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
ჱܓIf every tear we shed for you Became a star up above. You'd stroll in Heaven's Garden Lit with ever Lasting Love. ჱܓ
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FOR TUESDAY Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
♥ Watch Over Us From Heaven ♥ And Help Us Through This Pain ♥ We Will Always Love And Miss You ♥ Until We Meet Again ♥
♥ 5TH JUNE 2009 ♥
ITS HARD TO HIDE A BROKEN HEART.........
HOW CAN ANYONE SEE MY BROKEN HEART
THEY WOULD NOT KNOW WHERE TO START
THIS IS NOT SOMETHING ANYONE CAN SEE
MY HEART IS HIDING INSIDE OF ME.
I SURE THAT IF IT COULD BLEED IT WOULD
PEOPLE LIKE MYSELF ARE MISUNDERSTOOD
WE ARE ALL HURTING AND IN SO MUCH PAIN
LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN.
THE TEARS OF SADDNESS I CANNOT HELP BUT WEEP
MY BROKEN HEART IS MINE ALONE TO KEEP
ONLY ANOTHER PERSON LIKE MYSELF WOULD KNOW
JUST HOW HARD IT IS TO LET OUR REAL FEELINGS SHOW........
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__________o_________ _GOODNIGHT DARLING. X
copyright� Rosalind Roberts.
GOOD MORNING DARREN
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I DIDNT KNOW YOU BUT YOU WIFE HAS TOLD SUCH WONDERFUL THINGS ABOUT YOU SO I JUST THOUGHT I WOULD LEAVE A WEE COMMENT I HOPE NO ONE MINDS GOD BLESS YOU.
3 Years on...
I wanted to write something really great, a fitting tribute 3 years on..truth is words cannot express how I feel, the heartache never leaves. But I know that you would want us all to have happy fulfilled lives and do lots of great things, and really enjoy every moment. So that is what we try to do, every day..and it is an effort...but I am sure we will get there one day.
Love you loads my Darry, say hi to Franco too, have a beer and a singsong!!!
Love Your W xxxx
Hi Darren x
Just wanted to say that although I never had the pleasure of knowing you I have got to know Kerri and whilst she is proud to be your wife you should be so proud of her (I am sure you are) she copes so well. Your 4 boys are amazing she has carried on your good work of raising them love to you xxx
Fathers Day
Happy Fathers day darling, we are all missing you so much. George looks and your pictures all the time and asks all about you. We are not going to the cemetary today though, its too hard to look at that space and know your buried there. I like to think that you are with me at home and when we are doing family things...like Toms 18th, he really has grown up a lot and misses you more than anything. Jack has finished his exams, hes going to do really well, you'd be so proud. What can I say about Alex? he is just so like you in every way even his personality, attitude(!), mannerisms, looks, he drives me mad!!!!! Its almost 3 years now since you left our lives and still feels like such a short time ago, I wear my happy 'get on with it' face, but inside my heart is still aching, and I know I will never ever get over the loss of you. Love you forever my darling Darry xxxxxxx
Happy new year in heaven
Bless you Darren hope you and Franco and friends are not too hung over. Happy new year to you and to Kerrie and the boys xxx
Thinking of you Maggie xxx
Christmas in Heaven
by Unknown
'Tis Christmas in Heaven
What a beautiful sight!
It's wonderful here;
Everything is all right.
The crib is adorned
With the brilliance of stars,
Wisemen have come
From Venus and Mars.
I've met all our dear ones
Who preceded us here;
The reunion was lovely,
An event full of cheer.
And tonight we'll all gather,
In reverence we'll kneel,
For the Babe in the cradle
Up in Heaven is Real.
I think of my family
that I left behind
And I pray that your Christmas
Is as blessed as mine
Please shed no more tears,
For my soul is at rest,
Just love one another;
Live life to its best.
Yes, It's Christmas In Heaven,
So I've heard them say,
Yet, Christmas In Heaven
Happens every day.
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